Prostate Milking

You hear a lot about prostate milking on the web, but it's actually much less common than it's made out to be. What a lot of people call prostate milking is actually just prostate massage. A prostate milking causes seminal fluid to leave the body without orgasm. It's viewed as worse than a ruined orgasm by many who experience it. It's a submissive experience that's literally forced, but one that's often done for prostate health on a chaste sub.

I want to be extra clear on what prostate milking is. Semen is literally milked out of the prostate. No erection is necessary. You can tell the difference between a milking and a massage in the way the seminal fluid leaves the body. If it squirts out in rhythmical pulses, then that was an orgasm. It doesn't matter if there was pressure on the prostate, it was caused by an orgasm. If it dribbles out anticlimactically, then it was a milking.

Prostate milking will clear out old seminal fluid that has built up in the prostate. Normally seminal fluid is flushed during orgasm. Even if not actively having sex or masturbating to orgasm, the body will flush the prostate during wet dreams. However, when wearing a chastity device any erection can be painful and wet dreams will usually be interrupted before the body can do it's thing. When a man is unable to orgasm, seminal fluid can become toxic. It can lead to dangerous bacterial infections, and some studies have even shown an increased risk in prostate cancer.

So then how often should you "empty" old seminal fluid? I've seen recommendations ranging from every day, to once a week, to just twice a month. I'm lucky enough to have a kink friendly doctor - not an easy find I might add - and was able to ask him personally. When I explained the situation to him, he suggested that an occasional week or two without orgasm should be fine, but if orgasms are regularly prevented for more than 7 to 10 days, then a prostate milking would probably be a good idea. But he emphasized that a milking should not be done on men who have a disease of the prostate or acute prostatitis, and then only in the case where an orgasm is really out of the question. He also said to watch for blood in the semen when milking the prostate, as that could signify I'm being too rough. I should mention that I have yet to see blood in semen when milking, and I don't consider myself gentle by any means.

Many men find the stimulation of the prostate pleasurable. So then isn't a prostate milking somewhat of a reward? No, not at all. Milking can actually be devastating to some men. I've had it explained to me as a feeling similar to orgasm, but without the pleasure or intensity. It can also take a lot of the energy out of a man's horniness. The fullness of the prostate subconsciously makes men feel aroused. As thus, men become less horny after a milking. Since a horny sub is so much easier to deal with and enjoyable to be around, I see this as a downside to milking. In the end, subs still seem to be hornier than with the alternative to milking: an orgasm.

Unfortunately, it's not easy to learn how to milk the prostate. It can take a while to figure it all out. Even experienced, it takes me 5 to 10 minutes to thoroughly milk a prostate. An empty bladder will help, and a bowel movement helps your sub relax and makes the process easier and cleaner for you. You can use an enema if you prefer. There are a lot of toys out there designed to help, but I suggest you learn to do it by hand first. Prostate toys are popular for men because it can be difficult for a man to reach his own prostate, and a man can feel what the toy is doing to help guide himself. You on the other hand feel nothing with a toy, so the best way to learn is by hand. Then you can move on to other toys if it doesn't suit you.

Start by making sure your nails have no jagged edges. You don't have to trim them short, but if you don't, be extra careful not to tear or scratch anything. I also strongly suggest using sterile latex gloves. Using a water based lube, insert your index finger, or your index and middle finger, into your sub's ass. Move upward and in, almost as if you were pointing towards his belly button. You should find his prostate anywhere from 1 to 3 inches in. It's roughly the size of a walnut, but obviously you're only feeling the edge of it through the rectal wall. I suggest having your pet masturbate (or doing it for him) after you think you've found the prostate or as you feel for it, as this will make it swell a little and get harder. Getting to the edge of orgasm and stopping should make the prostate hard to miss. Another thing that might be helpful would be to get feedback from your pet, as rubbing the prostate may cause a sense of urgency to urinate. Once you're sure you've found the prostate you can then massage it on both sides. We are forcing the semen out, so take your time but don't be too gentle. The only thing to be careful with is not to put pressure on the center of the prostate, as that could potentially damage the urethra.

Once you get the hang of it, and if you're still interested, get a toy to help. Something as simple as this will work just fine; I see no need to buy anything from the popular but more expensive Aneros line of toys. Also, since pleasure isn't the point of a milking, a vibrating toy isn't necessary. Sometimes they aren't even more pleasurable, as they can actually numb the area. Of course if you do get a toy that can vibrate, try it out to see if it speeds up the process for you.

Some men have a refractory period afterwards and can't get hard. Some who can get hard, or were hard when you milked them, can hold an erection. In these cases those men can masturbate or fuck all they want without coming during what would normally be their refractory period. Of course some of those men can just come right away; either having a dry orgasm, or with one with a small amount of cum. I'm not sure why there is such a big difference in the range of responses, but it's something for you to test out and play around with if you're looking for a fun angle, or even just a way to quickly put your sub back into a horny mindset.