Humiliation in Private

A lot of people have humiliation fetishes. In fact, it's one of the most common fetishes among submissive males and females, but since it's not a specific act in and of itself, there's not much talk about it compared to other fetishes. Like all fetishes, play ranges from the light to the extreme, and most subs prefer something on the lighter end of thing. A lot of tops are put off by the idea of public play, and thus quickly dismiss humiliation. But there's actually no need to bring in a third party for humiliation play. Choosing to ignore humiliation when your sub craves it can lead to a misunderstanding of your sub and his motivations. But most importantly, it can be fun to explore! While public and private humiliation are quite similar for the most part, I'm going to focus on the private angle in this post.

There are some acts enjoyed by submissives solely because they are humiliating, such as being forced to ejaculate on his own face or eat his own cum, but most are also tied directly to other fun, kinky fetishes. This tends to lead anyone with a humiliation fetish into a wide variety of areas. These include but are not limited to foot fetishes, rimming, spanking, blackmail, and feminization (such as maid play). Much of kink oriented play has a humiliation angle you can work with. There are some things you can do to make such play more humiliating, or make kinky play that's not necessarily humiliating, humiliating.

Actually, just the way you speak to or about your sub can be humiliating for him. Using belittling names such as "slave," "pet," "boy," "girl," or "missy" can be humiliating. As can degrading names such as "slut," "tart," "whore," "bitch," and "tramp." You can talk to him like a kid, and even scold him like a child. Another trick is to force him to repeat every command you give, as a confirmation. You can even go as far as having him confirm everything you say. As a side note, if you wanted to mix some humiliation into a regular day you can require him to ask permission to do anything, even go to the bathroom, but since this extends outside of play time it tends to eventually get annoying, for both of you. Nonetheless, it can be fun for an evening or day.

Another simple humiliation trick is to get your sub to admit he enjoys something very submissive or humiliating. I know, it's very meta, but it's true and often overlooked. If someone gets off on doing something humiliating, such as eating their own cum, then making them admit it is also humiliating. Whenever you're doing this, make the sub tell you in complete and full sentences. None of this, "Yeah, I do" crap. Have him tell you in a convincing manner, and in his own words. Make him repeat it, and then make him say it louder. You can take it further and have him ask or even beg for it. Perhaps even get him to beg for something you know he doesn't like.

Another way to make humiliating or submissive play more humiliating is to take pictures of your sub as you play. Even if you have no intention on sharing them, even if he knows you have have no intention of sharing them, it still makes thing more humiliating. It's true this sort of humiliation is heightened by the risk that you might show someone, so if you can come across as undecided on the matter, that will help. You can ponder out loud to yourself what reaction your sister, friend, neighbor, etc. might have if they were to see them. And ask him how embarrassed he would be if this person saw the pictures. You don't need a detailed response, you just want him thinking about what it would be like rather than if it would really happen. I also suggest avoiding bringing up his immediate family as you want him humiliated, not afraid. You can also reflect out loud on pictures as you take them. Don't tell him that he looks fat or strange at a certain angle; rather focus on elements of the scene that would be humiliating even for flattering pictures. Tell him what a good shot of his ass that was, or how clearly you could see his balls in that last one. That sort of thing. You can remark on how you couldn't imagine what you'd have to pay someone to pose for this sort of thing, but yet he is enjoying it. If he's not hard, make him erect or have him get himself erect, "so anyone who sees the pictures will know you are enjoying yourself."

Everything for pictures basically goes for video as well, but video tends to be more humiliating because it also records audio. You can do basically the same thing as you did with the pictures and it will work great. Since you are also recording what he says this opens up new ways to humiliate him. For example, you can ask things that are intentionally embarrassing. A fun approach to take is to set up the camera in a way that makes it look like he's doing these things on his own, and of his own accord. Stop the camera to direct him, and then start it up again when you're done speaking. Of course if you wanted to you could edit out your talking from the video, but really you'll most likely just end up deleting the videos and actively directing him off camera makes what you're doing more obvious and more humiliating. You could even combine this my earlier suggestion and film a "confession" of his perversion. You could even film it as if it were his personal video blog post.

I couldn't decide, but since small penis humiliation is actually becoming more common, I'm going to mention it briefly. However, I'd go as far as to say it's almost unrelated to the humiliation fetish. First of all, while it can be embarrassing, it mostly comes off as rude and debasing. It's akin to teasing someone about how fat they are. Secondly, it's not even true most of the time. I've seen quite a few cocks in real life and none have really stood out as being small. I'll admit I've seem some that were large, but none I would consider small. This break from reality makes it an alternative universe type of fantasy. These include fantasies where the women are giants, and fantasies where women rule the world and all men are slaves. It's just too far from reality for me to take seriously, and any humiliation based on something so obviously false just doesn't do it for a lot of people into humiliation. That is, unless they truly have a small cock, but then we're back to just being mean. As you can tell, I'm not a fan of small penis humiliation. I prefer to stick to real forms of humiliation. I suggest you stick to humiliation based on the sub's wonderful perversions, not his faults.

With the right approach most tasks can be humiliating and still be between just you and your pet. Verbal cues and your own reactions make the biggest difference. Somethings do become less humiliating quite quickly, but only because you get use to them and your reactions change. Sure, your sub can become numb to certain humiliating things, but with the right "encouragement" you can stretch out the life of such things greatly, perhaps even indefinitely. That said, I should add that the more fun you have with it, the more humiliating it will be; so be sure find things or approaches you enjoy, and don't worry too much about "wearing" them out. If you're having fun with it you'll stumble across or think of things that you can do in the future to keep the humiliation thriving.