Public Humiliation

This is a continuation of last week's post, but focuses more on the public aspect of humiliation. As I said before, you don't have to involve a third party to make something humiliating. However, as you play around more with humiliation you might find yourself wanting to push your sub a little bit further. While you don't need to push your sub's limits, doing so is one of those bonding things we tend to do in growing relationships. Did I mention it's fun?

You don't need to bring someone into your bedroom to make humiliation more public. In fact, I find it's best to take things slowly. If you jump right to something very extreme then, yes, you are really going to humiliating him a lot, but then the steps in between are less intense. If you build up slowly then your sub can be the most humiliated he's ever been, each step of the way. Maybe I'm just sadistic, but doesn't this just sound like so much more fun?

The first step up from private humiliation play is to share pictures of your pet with a friendly but easily accessible community. I suggest Reddit's Gone Wild community or their BDSM Gone Wild community. If the picture is kinky, I suggest you post it at both. While a majority of the pictures are of women, pictures of men are allowed as well; just make sure you tag them with [M] as listed in the guidelines so no one gets upset. It's a very friendly place while still being publicly accessible. You have to host the images elsewhere though; I prefer postimage.org, but Reddit users tend to prefer imgur.com. Both let you make accounts and delete old pictures under that account. An alternative would be to post the pics on a profile at FetLife but kinky pics are the norm there, and it's so hard for strangers to find your pictures that I don't consider it a good choice if your goal is humiliation. Either way there should be some fun comments for you and your sub to read, perhaps you could even take requests from the community and fill them live, or just the next time you're playing.

To get responses from people who are more likely to be surprised by kinky pictures you can post an ad with pictures in the CraigsList personals section. Since this is local to your area you may want to use pictures without your sub's face, or chose a different city to post your ad in. People aren't idiots so don't post a bunch of fake ads in a row. It's probably best to just post as if you were your sub; this doesn't really limit your options. You could post his pictures and ask what people would "do to you." You could pretend to be looking for a new kinky friend, or you could just appear like a total perv and say that you took these pictures of yourself and wondered if anyone would like to help you take more. The idea is to try and get replies from people without having your post flagged and removed for being fake. CraigsList hides your email address but you may still be more comfortable making a fake email address for this. Even if you post to a personals section directed at women, expect a lot of replies from men. That said, posting in the M4M section would get you more replies. Since a lot of posting to CraigsList is just knowing regular people will see the pictures, you might want to plan ahead a bit on what email address to use or what you're going to write and then post an ad of pictures you take next time you're playing. You could probably even get several response right away, although some will certainly be spam.

There are some adult sites you can post your own videos at, but for some reason I have much less fun sharing the videos on such sites. Part of it is because there's so much fake porn there, but the bigger thing for me is how many guys post their own videos there just for the hell of it. If you want to share humiliating videos I suggest you find a site that pays you for views or downloads. Making money off your sub's slutitude can really make your sub feel used and humiliated, even if it's just pennies. Otherwise, he's just another random guy playing on cam for the world.

What I think works so much better is live video feeds. This is also a big step up from pictures. You can control your sub off cam or on. This lets you change up the dynamic; either having him be a lone pervert, or a dominated pet. There are two places that come to mind that let you broadcast your kinky webcam video to strangers. The first is ChatRoulette. There are more penises on ChatRoulette than you can shake a stick at, nonetheless, it's a free forum for you to broadcast anything to a complete stranger. It's all one on one. While it can be annoying at times, you can usually find someone with a webcam interested in watching, or someone without a cam fascinated enough not just to watch but comment as well. This is important for good humiliation. The second one was recommended by a friend, Cam4. This one will let you get some money from your pet's performance, although apparently the viewers are bad tippers. When signing up I had to wait a couple minutes for it to go through, perhaps they are gaining in popularity? With Cam4 you can have groups of people watching, but most tend to be men. You can set your profile to straight male but it won't help much. If virtually pimping out your sub sounds like fun, setting your profile to bisexual male will probably get you the most viewers. If the virtual pimping angle sounds like fun, you can try to hold out for a "tip" before having him do something humiliating, but since a lot of men on there are willing to do stuff for free, unless you have a large enough audience you will end up holding out indefinitely.

Next time I'll post about in-person humiliation, but I feel I should take a second to warn you not to trot your pet out to some random public place and have him expose himself or perform some lewd act in front of strangers. In the US this is actually a misdemeanor offense called public lewdness. I'm not sure about specific countries but it's just not a good idea. I also suggest that you don't tease your sub about it or make threats about doing so. Mentioning such things to a horny sub might subconsciously ingrain him with such desires. Sure there are exceptions to every rule, especially if your sub is already fixated on such a fantasy, but for the most part I'd suggest you avoid this particular scenario. What's best is to enlist the help of someone else and play out a scenario, but, like I said, that's for next time.