Erotic blackmail is a complex topic. Someone could probably write an entire book on the subject. As such, this is going to be a long post. It's an entirely different dynamic, and an entirely different approach to power exchange. Now I’m not talking about movie-style blackmail where you have proof someone broke the law or committed a crime of passion, and you’re demanding money. I'm talking about sexy-fun blackmail, where you have some naughty pictures or videos of your sub and you make him do other naughty things or you will "share" them. I write my posts with male subs in mind, but this should work with females as well.
Most subs fantasize about not just submitting, but having no choice in the matter. This is why bondage is so popular. While bound, subs have no choice in what happens to them. Long-term
orgasm control can also be used to give you a measure of control. But ultimately they still have a choice, "Obey or lose an orgasm." Your pet will have to turn down an orgasm to disobey, which might sound unlikely, but I've seen a number of subs refuse when ordered to
eat their own cum. You can even combine the above with
domestic discipline to take away even more control from a sub, but they all leave room for disobedience. You can, however, go a step further, and that is blackmail.
Blackmail gives the blackmailer near total control. Once a sub knows you are serious, the pressure to obey is overwhelming. When he is in your presence you have complete and total control over him. This obsoletes the need for any kind of bondage. If you tell him to lay there and take it, he has no choice. Of course even blackmail has a few limits. You can't make the sub do something physically impossible or outside of their skill set, and you don't know what he's doing when you're not around. So employing orgasm control and having the sub wear a chastity device is still a good idea. This is, nonetheless, the most power you can possibly have over your sub. And I must admit, it can be quite the rush.
While some subs will get hard at just the thought of blackmail, others will freak out. More often, it's a mix of both, but don't just drop this on your sub out of the blue; make sure they into it first. You don't want to actually break any laws. I also recommend that you keep money and gifts worth any significant amount of money, out of the blackmail entirely. I even suggest telling your sub you won't be asking for these things when you first begin. Anyone who accidentally finds out you're blackmailing your boy toy into some sexual act is going to know you're only playing, whereas if they find out you're blackmailing him for money, they may take things more seriously and alert authorities. It's best to leave money and money related things out of it to avoid that whole shit storm.
With this fetish, the real trick is to convince your sub that you would actually expose him. Do you
really have to be willing to expose him? Well, yes and no. You have to be willing to expose enough of him that he
thinks you could go all the way. Never tell him you aren't sure if you could go through with it or not,
always say that you could. If you want to sound more reasonable you can admit that it would take the fun out of it if you had to expose him, but emphasize that you
would do it, "or else you could never take yourself serious again." If, in the past, you've said you couldn't do such a thing or might not be able to, you could "admit" that your hesitation in the past wasn't about exposing him, but exposing yourself as the blackmailer and now you've realized this need not be the case. There are also some tricks you can use to convince him you are serious.
I suggest starting with images. Find (or get) a picture of your sub doing something embarrassing. Make sure you're not in the picture, you want it to be a picture that doesn't implicate you as the photographer, and isn't directly embarrassing to you. Also try for pictures without any easily identifiable "landmarks" for someone to spot. You get bonus points if he took the picture himself, as this is doubly incriminating. Secondly, you need to sanitize the picture. Cameras today put all kinds of information into a picture. Some even embed your
GPS coordinates. This information is collectively called EXIF data. There are plenty of apps that will remove this information for you. It can also be done on a desktop computer by open your picture with an image editor (MS Paint / Paintbrush will do), save it as a BMP, close the program
entirely, reopen the program, reopen the BMP file, and save it back as a JPG. Now you have a sanitized picture. Next you need to find a site that lets you both host
and delete images of adult content. Google Photos seems to work well for this. Always upload any pictures you plan on using. Having your pictures backed up adds an extra sense of seriousness, and deleting them off the computer or phone will do no good.
You can now show your sub these images online, and explain to him they are on the internet and there's nothing he can do about it. You can also explain to him that no one can find the pictures, so he is safe
for now. This will let your sub know you've got him. This is often sufficient for a fun weekend, if that's all you're interested in. If you plan on going longer, your sub will inevitably push you or test you to see if you're serious. If nothing else he will accuse you of not being able to follow through as a way of asking you to convince him you would.
The easiest way to show you are really serious is to
make a new blog. First,
find an anagram of their full name. It doesn't actually have to be real words, you can just jumble up the letters however you want. Then search Google for that anagram with quotes around and make sure it returns no results. So for example, with the name John Smith, I will jumble the letters up as "Jmht Soinh". There are
0 Google results for this search at the time I'm writing this, so it's a good name. Make it the name of your blog, and in it write something like, "Hi. My name is Jmht Soinh. I live in YOUR TOWN HERE, and I want to show you something." And link to a picture you uploaded. If you're using Google photos you can click share and then "get link" to get a link to post on your blog. After a couple days your blog will be indexed by Google (you can speed it up by a day by
submitting it manually), and the anagram you came up with before will now have exactly one result. This what you show your sub; you tell them to search for that anagram, or do it for them, and when they see it, you can tell them all you have to do is edit that blog post to have their real name. If he disobeys again you can edit the blog post and put his real name in it. Leave it that way for an hour, or day, or until he obeys, and then change it back.
Another thing you can do in addition to, or instead of the above, is to send a "hint" picture via email. The first thing to do is pick someone. I don't recommend anyone in his immediate family, as he might not think you could go through with it. There's also a chance that a brother or sister might already know about his kinks and just plain old not care. I recommend a cousin, friend, or even a coworker. The tricky part is to get the right email address. You can sometimes get it from a relative of his you've spoken with, but I just find it easier to either use the blackmail itself to get his email account password or use it to make him unlock his phone and then text yourself someone's email address. Next, you need to prepare this "hint" image. You're going to need to resize an image for this to work, but it's worth the time. Start by opening one of your sanitized photos in an image editor. Resize the image down to 8x8 or 10x10, something really tiny. If image editor wants to make it 8x7 or 10x12, then let it do so. Now that you have a tiny picture, resize it back up to the original size. If you don't remember the original size, use 800 by something. Some programs will make the image blocky, others will make it blurry. It doesn't matter, just make sure the picture is indistinguishable. Save it as something that won't identify either of you, something like
0001.jpg. Make a new email account, either on
Google,
Yahoo, or whatever. Send the blurry picture to the email address you have. Always show him the original picture after you show him the blurry or blocky picture. The human brain looks for patterns and he will see himself in the blurry or blocky picture even if others would not be able to. You can even make your sub watch as you send it. If he tries to stop you, remind him you have the pictures backed up online and can just send the full resolution image when he isn't around. If he ever disobeys or still wants to test you, you can repeat this process but use a slightly bigger intermediate size. Instead of resizing down to 8x8, you can use 16x16. It will show a lot more, and be even more obvious to him. If he still needs convincing, you can even send the shared link to the full picture! Make him watch as you do it. When he realizes you've done it and starts to freak out, you can go to the online site and delete the picture from there. Save it to disk, delete it from the image hosting site, and reupload it. This way the link you sent via email is no longer valid. He should be convinced, and there's even a chance the picture was actually seen.
What do you do now that you've got your pet blackmailed and convinced of it? Well the first order of business is to get better photos. Make him take them himself as you watch. As I said earlier, these kinds of pictures are way better for blackmail. It's more humiliating to have self pic of him coming on his own face than one someone else took. It's more embarrassing he's the one who took the picture of him sticking something in his ass. Try to think of something just slightly more humiliating and embarrassing than the current pictures you have. This will slowly build a blackhole of perversion. He will constantly be creating his new more damning blackmail that will itself allow him to be blackmailed into creating even worse content. Of course this can't go on forever, but you can drag it out for quite a while. Just get another pic every so often. You can even have him think up something you don't have a picture of! Tell him to think of something or you'll start sending. Then when you're all out of ideas, switch to video!
What else? Have fun! If you couldn't convince him to wear a chastity device before, do so now. If he's the type that normally refuses to eat his own cum, this is a great way to get him to do so. Do you want more oral sex, foot massages, back massages, etc.? Now you can demand it at threat of exposure and
have the demand itself turn him on. Tired of bondage? There's no need for it anymore, just tell him to stay still. A variation on this is to play dolly with him. Have him stay perfectly still except for how you move him. So if you put his arm up, it stays up. If you pull his ass into the air, he holds it there. Along with opening up some new things that can only be done with a 100% obedient pet, most forms of kinky play and related games translate to the roughly the same thing under blackmail but have new weight.
