Choose Your Destiny

What I have for you today is a fun game to play with your sub. I call it "Choose Your Destiny." It's very simple. Make a list of questions that have either multiple choice or yes/no answer. Make your sub answer the list of questions, but without knowing what the question is he's answering.

Here are some sample yes/no questions:

• Do you want to be gagged?
• Do you want a butt plug in?
• Will you be denied orgasm?
• Will you be spanked?
• Are you going to go down on me?

The problem with yes/no questions is that answering "yes" is usually the more desirable answer for the sub. Try to word things backwards, as I did with the orgasm in the list. Multiple choice questions really solve this problem better, as you can mix up the answers randomly. Here are some multiple choice questions.

Which do you prefer?

1. To be gagged
2. To be blind folded
3. All of the above
4. None of the above

What punishment do you deserve?

1. None
2. A spanking
3. No orgasm today
4. Nipple clamps

What will you lick?

1. Your feet
2. Your clit
3. Your nipples
4. Your ass

You can put any question you can think of on your list. The possibilities are endless. If you have trouble thinking of questions yourself you can make your sub write out questions for you. Maybe just one a day, and pick from your list of questions at random.

Erotic Blackmail

Erotic blackmail is a complex topic. Someone could probably write an entire book on the subject. As such, this is going to be a long post. It's an entirely different dynamic, and an entirely different approach to power exchange. Now I’m not talking about movie-style blackmail where you have proof someone broke the law or committed a crime of passion, and you’re demanding money. I'm talking about sexy-fun blackmail, where you have some naughty pictures or videos of your sub and you make him do other naughty things or you will "share" them. I write my posts with male subs in mind, but this should work with females as well.

Most subs fantasize about not just submitting, but having no choice in the matter. This is why bondage is so popular. While bound, subs have no choice in what happens to them. Long-term orgasm control can also be used to give you a measure of control. But ultimately they still have a choice, "Obey or lose an orgasm." Your pet will have to turn down an orgasm to disobey, which might sound unlikely, but I've seen a number of subs refuse when ordered to eat their own cum. You can even combine the above with domestic discipline to take away even more control from a sub, but they all leave room for disobedience. You can, however, go a step further, and that is blackmail.

Blackmail gives the blackmailer near total control. Once a sub knows you are serious, the pressure to obey is overwhelming. When he is in your presence you have complete and total control over him. This obsoletes the need for any kind of bondage. If you tell him to lay there and take it, he has no choice. Of course even blackmail has a few limits. You can't make the sub do something physically impossible or outside of their skill set, and you don't know what he's doing when you're not around. So employing orgasm control and having the sub wear a chastity device is still a good idea. This is, nonetheless, the most power you can possibly have over your sub. And I must admit, it can be quite the rush.

While some subs will get hard at just the thought of blackmail, others will freak out. More often, it's a mix of both, but don't just drop this on your sub out of the blue; make sure they into it first. You don't want to actually break any laws. I also recommend that you keep money and gifts worth any significant amount of money, out of the blackmail entirely. I even suggest telling your sub you won't be asking for these things when you first begin. Anyone who accidentally finds out you're blackmailing your boy toy into some sexual act is going to know you're only playing, whereas if they find out you're blackmailing him for money, they may take things more seriously and alert authorities. It's best to leave money and money related things out of it to avoid that whole shit storm.

With this fetish, the real trick is to convince your sub that you would actually expose him. Do you really have to be willing to expose him? Well, yes and no. You have to be willing to expose enough of him that he thinks you could go all the way. Never tell him you aren't sure if you could go through with it or not, always say that you could. If you want to sound more reasonable you can admit that it would take the fun out of it if you had to expose him, but emphasize that you would do it, "or else you could never take yourself serious again." If, in the past, you've said you couldn't do such a thing or might not be able to, you could "admit" that your hesitation in the past wasn't about exposing him, but exposing yourself as the blackmailer and now you've realized this need not be the case. There are also some tricks you can use to convince him you are serious.

I suggest starting with images. Find (or get) a picture of your sub doing something embarrassing. Make sure you're not in the picture, you want it to be a picture that doesn't implicate you as the photographer, and isn't directly embarrassing to you. Also try for pictures without any easily identifiable "landmarks" for someone to spot. You get bonus points if he took the picture himself, as this is doubly incriminating. Secondly, you need to sanitize the picture. Cameras today put all kinds of information into a picture. Some even embed your GPS coordinates. This information is collectively called EXIF data. There are plenty of apps that will remove this information for you. It can also be done on a desktop computer by open your picture with an image editor (MS Paint / Paintbrush will do), save it as a BMP, close the program entirely, reopen the program, reopen the BMP file, and save it back as a JPG. Now you have a sanitized picture. Next you need to find a site that lets you both host and delete images of adult content. Google Photos seems to work well for this. Always upload any pictures you plan on using. Having your pictures backed up adds an extra sense of seriousness, and deleting them off the computer or phone will do no good.

You can now show your sub these images online, and explain to him they are on the internet and there's nothing he can do about it. You can also explain to him that no one can find the pictures, so he is safe for now. This will let your sub know you've got him. This is often sufficient for a fun weekend, if that's all you're interested in. If you plan on going longer, your sub will inevitably push you or test you to see if you're serious. If nothing else he will accuse you of not being able to follow through as a way of asking you to convince him you would.

The easiest way to show you are really serious is to make a new blog. First, find an anagram of their full name. It doesn't actually have to be real words, you can just jumble up the letters however you want. Then search Google for that anagram with quotes around and make sure it returns no results. So for example, with the name John Smith, I will jumble the letters up as "Jmht Soinh". There are 0 Google results for this search at the time I'm writing this, so it's a good name. Make it the name of your blog, and in it write something like, "Hi. My name is Jmht Soinh. I live in YOUR TOWN HERE, and I want to show you something." And link to a picture you uploaded. If you're using Google photos you can click share and then "get link" to get a link to post on your blog. After a couple days your blog will be indexed by Google (you can speed it up by a day by submitting it manually), and the anagram you came up with before will now have exactly one result. This what you show your sub; you tell them to search for that anagram, or do it for them, and when they see it, you can tell them all you have to do is edit that blog post to have their real name. If he disobeys again you can edit the blog post and put his real name in it. Leave it that way for an hour, or day, or until he obeys, and then change it back.

Another thing you can do in addition to, or instead of the above, is to send a "hint" picture via email. The first thing to do is pick someone. I don't recommend anyone in his immediate family, as he might not think you could go through with it. There's also a chance that a brother or sister might already know about his kinks and just plain old not care. I recommend a cousin, friend, or even a coworker. The tricky part is to get the right email address. You can sometimes get it from a relative of his you've spoken with, but I just find it easier to either use the blackmail itself to get his email account password or use it to make him unlock his phone and then text yourself someone's email address. Next, you need to prepare this "hint" image. You're going to need to resize an image for this to work, but it's worth the time. Start by opening one of your sanitized photos in an image editor. Resize the image down to 8x8 or 10x10, something really tiny. If image editor wants to make it 8x7 or 10x12, then let it do so. Now that you have a tiny picture, resize it back up to the original size. If you don't remember the original size, use 800 by something. Some programs will make the image blocky, others will make it blurry. It doesn't matter, just make sure the picture is indistinguishable. Save it as something that won't identify either of you, something like 0001.jpg. Make a new email account, either on Google, Yahoo, or whatever. Send the blurry picture to the email address you have. Always show him the original picture after you show him the blurry or blocky picture. The human brain looks for patterns and he will see himself in the blurry or blocky picture even if others would not be able to. You can even make your sub watch as you send it. If he tries to stop you, remind him you have the pictures backed up online and can just send the full resolution image when he isn't around. If he ever disobeys or still wants to test you, you can repeat this process but use a slightly bigger intermediate size. Instead of resizing down to 8x8, you can use 16x16. It will show a lot more, and be even more obvious to him. If he still needs convincing, you can even send the shared link to the full picture! Make him watch as you do it. When he realizes you've done it and starts to freak out, you can go to the online site and delete the picture from there. Save it to disk, delete it from the image hosting site, and reupload it. This way the link you sent via email is no longer valid. He should be convinced, and there's even a chance the picture was actually seen.

What do you do now that you've got your pet blackmailed and convinced of it? Well the first order of business is to get better photos. Make him take them himself as you watch. As I said earlier, these kinds of pictures are way better for blackmail. It's more humiliating to have self pic of him coming on his own face than one someone else took. It's more embarrassing he's the one who took the picture of him sticking something in his ass. Try to think of something just slightly more humiliating and embarrassing than the current pictures you have. This will slowly build a blackhole of perversion. He will constantly be creating his new more damning blackmail that will itself allow him to be blackmailed into creating even worse content. Of course this can't go on forever, but you can drag it out for quite a while. Just get another pic every so often. You can even have him think up something you don't have a picture of! Tell him to think of something or you'll start sending. Then when you're all out of ideas, switch to video!

What else? Have fun! If you couldn't convince him to wear a chastity device before, do so now. If he's the type that normally refuses to eat his own cum, this is a great way to get him to do so. Do you want more oral sex, foot massages, back massages, etc.? Now you can demand it at threat of exposure and have the demand itself turn him on. Tired of bondage? There's no need for it anymore, just tell him to stay still. A variation on this is to play dolly with him. Have him stay perfectly still except for how you move him. So if you put his arm up, it stays up. If you pull his ass into the air, he holds it there. Along with opening up some new things that can only be done with a 100% obedient pet, most forms of kinky play and related games translate to the roughly the same thing under blackmail but have new weight.

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The Maid Thing

Recently someone asked me how you do the "maid thing". I admit, when I was younger, maid fantasies use to bother me because they implied it's a woman's place to clean. However, it also generally involves a french maid outfit, and no one really wears those when cleaning either. So the fantasy has a historic context, and I like history. I forgive anyone with a maid fantasy of any chauvinist pig-ism. It's actually a great fantasy to play out because you get some house work done, and who couldn't use a little extra cleaning around the house? While there is certainly variation, maid fantasies tend to be very similar. I'll go over the generic maid fantasy in case anyone is unfamiliar with it. Then I'll break it down into it's parts so you can more clearly understand the fantasy. And lastly I'll optimize it to get the most cleaning out of your sub!

Since the maid fantasy will vary from man to man, I'm just going to write out a generic but common version of it. Start by either shaving your sub's genitalia, or making him do it on his own. If he's already shaved, you're good to go. Then you help him into a french maid outfit sans panties but including a choker and high heels. Put a little makeup on him, if nothing else, some whore-red lipstick. Then complete the package with a butt plug. If he's not erect when you finish prettying him up, tease him a little until he is, and then give him a small task to complete. You can spank him when he misses something or isn't working fast enough. Make an excuse to wander past him now and then and feel him up. When he finishes, refresh his erection and give him another small task.

The maid fantasy is primarily a feminization fantasy. First there's the shaving of the genitals, this certainly has a feminization angle, but it also gives a feeling of vulnerability. Some fantasies also include shaving of the legs as well, but some skip the shaving entirely. The big tell on this fantasy however is the maid outfit. Why doesn't he have a slave fantasy where he cleans naked in chains? The excuse for putting on one of these, along with the make up, is most certainly a feminization fetish. Sure this is also humiliating, so there's some of that in there, but you could humiliate him as he cleans without the maid outfit. The butt plug option varies from person to person as well, it's not in everyone's fantasies. It's generally a humiliation or degradation thing. You have to use one with a flange and a narrow neck so it doesn't pop out. You can put on panties over it to help hold it in. Lastly there's the erection, which many men assume they'll carry around with them the whole time, so you have to constantly refresh the erection for fear of him getting bored and not wanting to do play out this fantasy again.

So how can we make this fantasy easier, funner, and possibly even cheaper? Well let's start with the french maid outfit. Sure, it's great once, but they are difficult to clean and expensive replace, not to mention hard to get (if it's not Halloween). They tend to be more trouble than they are worth. If the sub really has the body for it, then I find the frilly maid outfit sexy, but honestly, this usually isn't the case. If you just have more time than money, or your maid-to-be isn't set on the french maid outfit, I suggest skipping it entirely. Since the maid outfit provides the feminization angle, I suggest you modernize your maid. Go to Walmart, Kmart, or some other cheap store. Second hand stores are a good choice as well. Pick out an outfit with a short skirt for your sub. Short is ideal so his cock will poke out when erect. I think mini dresses are the most fun, but anything will do. Just make sure it's skanky and cheap. If you can find something in his size, the same goes with the high heels, just get something cheap. If you feel so compelled, you can also pick up a bra and cheap lipstick. I suggest having him try everything on in a changing room. If you're afraid someone you know will see you, drive to a store further out or just get a bunch of different sizes and return what doesn't fit. There's no special cleaning directions and because they were cheap, you can throw them away guilt free if they get stained, torn, or whatever. Speaking of stained and torn, I've found cheap frilly panties at the dollar store if that sounds like fun. Another fun thing to do is to give him a feminine name and talk to him like he's a girl. That should take care of the feminization angle; sure it's not French, but who cares? My money says he doesn't.

Now there was a bit of humiliation and degradation in the fantasy, but they weren't major things. Physically helping him dress covers this, as does doing his makeup or showing him how to do it. The short skirt also helps with this because his erection will be visible. You can still do the anal plug but again, be careful it's not going to come out. Always use a flanged plug with a thin neck and a wide head. If you feel humiliation was an important angle for your sub, you can take pictures or videos. And if you can get some without his face you can even post them online anonymously. Another trick is to make him ask for it, "Tell me you want to be dressed as a girl and forced to clean."

The big thing however, is the erection. Let's not beat around the bush, this is the real motivator here. This is what will keep it fun and have him wanting to replay this fantasy again and again. We want him to be erect for as much of the cleaning as possible. Sure you could follow him around groping every minute or two, but at some point it becomes easier to just do the cleaning yourself. What works best is a remote controlled vibrator, or a remote controlled e-stim device. E-stim is a lot of fun and probably works best -- you can even get butt plug attachments for it -- but is much more expensive. Use it if you have one! You can even shock him with it if he's not going fast enough or working hard enough. Just make sure the vibrator or e-stim add-ons are securely attached. With a vibrator I suggest bondage tape or masking tape. For smaller remote eggs you can hold it to the head of his cock and trap it there with a condom. (Then secure the condom.) Rope can work sometimes, but it will be tricky. Perhaps make a game out of it for your sub, if he can attach the vibrator so it won't fall off he gets an orgasm, but if it comes off he doesn't get to come. Whatever device you use, the remote control is the important part here. It will change this from a chore for you, into an easy game.

When you see he doesn't have an erection, use the remote to give him one. Even if he does have one, randomly stimulate him a little every now and then, perhaps when you turn a page in your book. Most remotes have different strength settings, so you may be tempted to keep it on low, but don't! There are only two things this can result in, an orgasm, which ends his blissful cleaning, or, and this is more likely, he will get use to it and go soft. The human body quickly adapts and after a while it will be like it's not on at all, and it will take even stronger stimulation to achieve an erection. The advantage of using a remote control is you can turn it on and off without much work. You don't have to stop what you're doing; you don't have to get your hands messy; you don't have to walk over to him; you don't even have to be in the same room as him if you want to just stimulate him randomly. Just don't use a constant setting and you'll be fine.

Some men simply want to be dressed up and made pretty before working, and dressing them up "pays" for all the work they will do, but in my experience these men quickly bore of the fantasy. If you want a pet who will not only clean house for you frequently, but enjoy it, then this is the way to go. Sure you are using his fantasies to your benefit, but a sub won't hate you for this, they will love you for it. You can flat out tell them you are using their perversion against them to get house work done and they will only get more turned on. Of course everyone is different, so you might have to tweak a few things, but this is a pretty solid foundation to build from. And don't forget, a horny slave is a happy slave.

Quick But Kinky

I want to talk about quick but kinky orgasms. One of the few downsides to restricting your sub's orgasms is they become very invested in that orgasm, and missing it because you ran out of time is a sad and disappointing event. However, there's no reason you can't give a short but kinky orgasm. You might think your sub will feel cheated, but as long as your sub has been worked up sexually while being denied - I suggest a masturbation schedule - then a short but kinky orgasm will still be much enjoyed and much appreciated.

The caveat here is that this isn't necessarily true for a sub who's been denied orgasm much much longer than they are use to. When working out what is roughly an agreement with my sub about orgasm denial, I always say I reserve the right to delay an orgasm due to punishment. This means one alternative is to find an excuse to punish your sub and deny him orgasm for another day. In fact, this is always a way out, but it goes from fun to frustrating quite quickly for your sub. If there's nothing special about his period of denial, go with a quick orgasm. There are plenty of fast and easy things you can mix into a quick orgasm to make it more kinky. Just make sure you mix it up; don't use the same combination of things each time.

One fun thing you can do is to take off your panties or socks and use them as a gag for your sub. If it's a sock I suggest you turn it inside out so they are tasting your feet and not the floor. You can do the same with your panties but some choose not to flip them inside out to be "kind" to their sub. In reality a truly horny sub will tend to find these "gross" things even more sexy. Nonetheless, if you feel self-conscious putting your used panties into your pet's mouth, you can plan ahead a little and sneak off into the bathroom to put on a fresh pair before you play. You can do the same thing with your socks if it bothers you.

This is the sister idea to the previous one. Sit on his face. You can angle how you sit so your ass or your pussy is over his face. You can silence him with pressure or make him lick you. You could also lay with your feet on his face and make him kiss or lick them. Again some people will be self-conscious about this, and I wish I could help you get over it, because a sub will enjoy it. Even if he doesn't, feeling that he has to tolerate it in order to get an orgasm will turn him on even more. Either way you win when it comes to kink.

You can bind him to a bed or a chair. You could spend a lot of time doing this carefully, but there's no need to spend much time on it. I suggest using handcuffs and ankle cuffs. They are very fast. If you have a chair you want to bind him to, cuff his hands behind the back position his feet to the side of the side chair, and make the ankle cuffs go around the back. If it's one of those chairs with one central support then wrap the ankle cuffs around the center once. Bound to a chair your pet will sometimes be able to close his legs, when this is the case I find simple instruction works good enough. "If you close your legs you will not be allowed to come today." If you have a four poster bed you can use two ankle cuffs and two handcuffs to secure him quite quickly. If your bed has four feet you can emulate the four poster bed with four additional ankle cuffs. Attach an ankle cuff to each foot of the bed and then attach the other end of the ankle cuff to the hand cuff or ankle cuff you will use on your sub. There are also many quick bed bondage solutions you can buy along with some do-it yourself solutions.

Cock and ball bondage! Again, it's possible to spend a lot of time on this, but you can also do it quite quickly with the help of rubber bands. You can put one around his cock and balls, double it or triple it back over depending on how much room there is. You can put one around the balls themselves. Just stretch them from one area to another anyway you want. You can literally have a tight secure package in less than 30 seconds. Shoe laces or a heavier rope can also be quickly tied around a cock and balls, but it takes a little more practice to be fast with those. I say the rubber bands are fine. You can even get a big bag of them for a dollar at the dollar store.

If your sub has more time than you, this opens up a whole other area of options. These fall in the category of "prepare yourself for me." You might find this situation is a more common occurrence, as the sub has more motivation to make time. Don't feel bad about this, take advantage of it and have your sub do some of the work for you. It doesn't take much to turn self-play into shared-play. One key thing here is in how you tell him to do things. Make sure you phrase things as a command, and never start your sentences with things like "why don't you" or "if you'd like." Use the words "for me" whenever you can and make sure your pet knows he is doing these things for you, not for himself.

There are lots of things you can have your pet do. You can tell him to tie up his cock and balls. You can be specific and have them separate each testicle, or have them coil a rope around their balls so they are pushed away from their body. Or you can leave it open ended and tell him to be creative with the rope or to think of something that would impress you. You can tell your toy to insert a butt plug as part of the preparation. You can even have him bind himself to the bed or a chair - my comments about bed or chair bondage also apply here. Depending on what you have to use, sometimes he will have to leave one arm unlocked, but you can quickly secure that one for him.

Another entertaining option is to pick out a vibrating toy and have my sub tie the toy to himself. I also pair this with instructions to bind himself to the bed. Then when he's ready I turn on the toy and if he can come with the set up he invented, he gets an orgasm. If he can't, his punishment is no orgasm. It's a simple and fun game. If he sucks at it, you can give him a set number of tries. If he turns out to be too good at it, you can pick an awkward shaped toy. I might over use this one, but I've gotten no complaints! You can slowly turn up the vibrator to make it last a little longer, but sometimes I prefer to just set it to max and see what happens (especially with the Hitachi). You can vary what toy he's using to keep things interesting, or add other requirements such as having one attached to each testicle as well.

And let's not forget good old fashioned masturbation. Have your pet masturbate for 20 minutes before you get started. A specific form of masturbation, called edging is also a wonderful tool. To edge, your pet masturbates until he is close to orgasm, and then keeps himself as close as he can without going over. This is error prone and a pet can mess up here, but I think it's still a worthy task. If you're worried about him going over, tell him to bring himself to the edge X number of times with Y number of minutes of rest in between.

You might tell yourself there's no excuse, that you should have planned ahead, but there is any number of valid reasons to go for a quick orgasm. Maybe there was a family emergency, or you had to work late, and there just wasn't enough time left in the day. Maybe it's something as simple as your daughter having a slumber party and what you thought was a nice group of girls is actually a quite unruly group requiring near constant supervision. Rolls eyes. Or maybe you just had a long exhausting day and you can't wait to get to sleep. Whatever the reason, when you're out of time, a quick kink friendly orgasm is usually the best answer. There are quite a bit of quick but kinky things you can do, and even more if you sub has time to "prepare himself for you."

Forced Cum Eating

Someone asked for help getting her sub to eat his own cum. For anyone who hasn't tried this, it's actually harder than it sounds. For anyone who has tried but failed, it's much easier with the right approach. But before I get into the how, I want to give a small warning. The whole point of forcing someone to swallow their own cum is making them do something degrading and humiliating that they wouldn't normally do. One thing I find disappointing is learning that a sub, on his own, will eat his own cum. If someone already swallows their own cum after they orgasm, it takes the fun out of making them do it. Firstly, they aren't doing it for you. If they do it of their own accord, they are doing it for themselves. Secondly, the sub gets use to it. It's no longer humiliating or degrading for them. It becomes common and normal. Boring.

Sometimes the top will make a sub eat his own load every time. Like I said before, it desensitizes them to it. But some tops find it sexy to break someone. There is a sense of accomplishment and pride, not to mention power, in really changing someone. I can understand this angle, especially if the sub is the type of person who gags at even a taste of their own man seed; an attitude adjustment is in order. I've also heard it argued as a way to save time cleaning up. In the case of sucking someone else off, I agree, it is cleaner. But I'm calling shenanigans in the case of a sub licking up his own load. This is some guy's justification for a fantasy he can't otherwise rationalize. A tongue is far from sanitary; more cleaning is still necessary. The only way it saves time in cleanup is if he's swallowing his load, with his mouth directly on his cock. Now, while not an option for most men, I'll admit this is appealing to me, especially since time saved on clean up is more time for something else. But again, consider the frequency you make your sub eat his own semen, as you might unintentionally numb him to the act. Personally, I like to save it as a "treat."

There are many approaches to getting your pet to eat his own cum. Some will work better than others depending on your sub. You can go with whatever you think will work best with your sub, or whatever sounds like the most fun to you. Of course I'm not recommending you break any of your sub's limits (unless you know he'll be ok with it), but forcing a sub to fulfill his fantasy is both fun and sexy. If you are doubting yourself and want more justification, then see the second half of my post on following through.

The most common approach is by command. Make the sub come on his or your hand, or if you're feeling generous, your breasts, legs, feet, or whatever. Then order him to lick it clean. This is the first thing that comes to mind for most tops, but is also the hardest to make someone follow through with. This approach can work, but only if you are very strict. Think of the voice you use when telling your dog to stop poking at the trash can, or when you're telling your cat to get off the dinner table. Speak sternly, imply urgency, and raise your voice. Since this is one of the hardest approaches, it can also take several tries. If you notice your toy hesitating or otherwise struggling with the command, I suggest giving him an out. Tell him what his punishment will be if he doesn't obey. Pick a punishment he won't like, and up that punishment with each attempt. For example, if your sub isn't usually denied orgasms for a week then tell them if they don't follow through you will deny them orgasm for a week. If they choose this option then try again in a week, but next time threaten two weeks punishment. While I imagine this will eventually work with anyone, it might be hard to find the right punishment. Don't start out with the worst punishment you can imagine though, build up to larger and more serious punishments. Someone refusing to eat their own cum at the cost of no orgasms for a year, might actually be willing to do so at the threat of not coming for a month after suffering through two weeks of no orgasms. If this is the approach you want to use, but it's not working, try not to get frustrated. Some subs just have a hard time with this. Instead, think of it as a game to see how much your sub will suffer through before giving in.

This second approach requires a little more preparation. This is generally the approach that comes to a sub's mind when they fantasize about being forced to swallow their own load. The key to this approach is lack of options on your sub's behalf. Put him in a position where he can't say no. My favorite way to do this is the legs over the head trick. Have him lay on his back and lift his legs back over his head until his cock lines right up with his mouth. What helps is having him lay such that when his feet go over his head they land on a wall behind him, then have him walk down the wall to narrow the gap between his mouth and cock. You may have to move your man around a bit and start over to get him lined up properly. When he's lined up make him come into his own mouth. This might actually take a couple tries before you get a good amount in there. Hold him in that awkward position by the balls, make sure you have a good grip so he knows he can't just lay back down. Another option is to position yourself behind him so he can't unfold. Tell him he has to swallow it, if he hesitates hold his nose with a free hand. He'll have to swallow to breath. This is more commonly accomplished (and fantasized about) with bondage. Make sure he's secure and can't move, then make him come into a shot glass. A small cup like a shot glass is essential, or too much of it will get stuck on the sides. Tell him to drink it, again if he refuses hold his nose and pour it into his mouth. Let him breath but repeat the process to get him to swallow if necessary. There are alternatives to holding his nose if you think that might make him panic or choke, or if it just isn't your style. One alternative is a little abuse to the balls. Even people who enjoy CBT will find it hard to take a couple hard swats to the balls after orgasm. Another is, if you have e-stim toys, use them to make him come, but after orgasm keep turning up the power until he obeys. There are a lot of options really, any sort of pain should do the trick. When using pain I always suggest it be something erotic in nature to make thinking about it afterwards a more positive experience for the sub.

This third approach is down right insidious and underhanded. I think it's great. The tricky part in getting a man to swallow his own cum isn't getting him to admit he wants it, or talking him into it -- that's easy, just get him horny enough. The tricky part is getting him to follow through once there is a load for him to swallow. If only you could get his load into his mouth before he comes. Well, you can. All you'll need is an ice cube tray. If you already make your own ice then get one that looks different than the others. When your sub comes, make him come into one of the ice cube slots. Although one load is probably enough, I suggest getting two to four loads in one slot to make a larger cube. When you decide it's time for your man to eat his own load, get him good and horny, maybe even bring him to the edge a couple times, then break out the ice cube. You'll easily be able to get him to suck on the cube when he's all worked up. And like that, he's happily swallowing his own semen. Make him finish the whole cube before being allowed to come. It's too easy. If you want him to have the real experience, if you want to do something he would fantasize about were he clever enough, start by tying him down. Tease him until he is willing to suck on the cum cube. After he takes the cube into his mouth, make sure he can't spit it out. Gag him with a ball gag or wrap bondage tape around his face and mouth. Make him come immediately, before he can consume much, if any, of the cube. Make him watch as you catch his load with the ice cube tray to help him realize exactly what he's about to do... swallow his own load after coming. Do not untie him or ungag him until you're sure he's swallowed it all.